My friend was sexually abused as a child, now has BPD. can someone with mental health knowlege give me advice?

i know someone who was sexually abused by her father as a child for a very very long time, and when they finally told someone they got called a liar until it happened to someone else 10 years later and it all came out. The problem is she got diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder) and has been self harming and having many suicidle thoughts as she cant get the thoughts and feelings for her dad out of her head, however, she says she feels guilty for her dad being behind bars. she says she feels sorry for him even though she knows what he one was wrong and therefore he deserves to be there. is this normal? how can i help her? will getting her to open up abit more help? or make her worse? please give some advice, thank you.My friend was sexually abused as a child, now has BPD. can someone with mental health knowlege give me advice?You should not play therapist with her or mess around in her head. Yes, her feelings are common, and it is because she has over identified with him in an unhealthy way. You could look up 'traumatic bonding' and 'stockholm syndrome'.
All you can do is be there and listen, and be honest. It is ok to say things like , I can see how you might feel that way, but you are completely ignoring the damage his behavior caused you. This was not your fault in anyway.
It would probably be better if you could get her to go to therapy and you could go with her and talk these things out, so she will also have an avenue to get help.
If she has been diagnosed as BPD, i think that is unfair, but predictable. She doesn't need a therapist like that, but ones that can help her resolve the trauma of the sexual abuse quickly without having her have to re-live them. The best method for that and the therapists are these eftmasters.com.
You can talk to therapists about how best to support her also.
I think Oprah had a show on pedophiles and child molestors and she should watch that show, it may be available at oprah.com. search for it. Oprah interviewed them. Since she was also a sexual abuse survivor, then she said it took her a long time, up until she did the interview with them, that she realized they had carefully manipulated her , and planned it out, and completely used her innocense and ignorance to exploit and harm her.
So, it may take some time and living experience for her to really know the damage he did, but i would think that her flashbacks would help her realize how he hurt her.
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As she gets older and more information , she will realize the harm . sometimes the worst feelings are the ones that are intensly opposite of each other for the same person.My friend was sexually abused as a child, now has BPD. can someone with mental health knowlege give me advice?If I were you, I would wait until my friend had plenty of therapy to even begin to have a relationship with her. What her father did was atrocious, however, he is still her father and she is always going have love for him. Hopefully with good therapy, her borderline personality can stabilize and her life be less chaotic.My friend was sexually abused as a child, now has BPD. can someone with mental health knowlege give me advice?am actually seeing someone to help with me and my problems maybe she could to the same get some therapy it will help her if she is to see some one professionally they will help there always someone there to help cant say much because i not really Better myself but am willing to get help that i need before i actually kill my self :/