Should you tell your child about a health scare?

I am a single mom of 2 great kids. I am having a lot of medical problems. I am having a hysterectomy soon due to tumours on my ovaries, and endometriosis. Should I tell my 9 year old son about my problems specifically, or sugar coat it to protect him and not to worry him in case there is no need for chemo or radiation. What to do? THis is a tough call, my son while not a typical 9 year old is very mature but, I don't want to put stress on him. He keeps asking about all my recent doctors appointments and I have surgery in less then 2 weeks. What do I say, if anything. Just don't know what to do this time.Should you tell your child about a health scare?i think you should sugar coat it because no matter how mature you think he is, HE IS STILL A 9 YEAR OLD KID. but if something does happen to you while your in surgery you should have someone who is real close to you and your kids let him know what happened they can sugar coat it to and just wait until he gets older to tell him.Should you tell your child about a health scare?
I would sugar coat it unless it's certain that it can't get better.

Other wise we wouldn't want to worry him for something that hopefully could turn out alright.

It might be hard to sugar coat it so say something realistic, but i wouldn't mention the tumors or anything.

He'l just stress out.

Your in my prayers, best of luck :)Should you tell your child about a health scare?I think you should sugar coat the truth but he ought to know the truth. Tell him what they're looking for, but that there is a good chance that they won't find anything to worry about. If you need chemo then you tell him the full truth, children have been being lied to for years and we don't need to do this to them, but in never hurt to leave a detail out here or there to protect them. I'm so sorry that this is happening to you and your family though, I pray that everything turns out alright.
My mom had cancer in her intestines and resulted in her having to do sugery. She didn't tell me what it was for before the surgery and she just kept saying that she had "small problems" but nothing very serious. In the end, everything worked out fine and she lives very healthily now. I was not traumatized because of it because i didn't think that she could die. I was about 8 at the time and at that age, one of my parent's death as the worst nightmare i could think of. I would relax and keep saying that it' nothing very serious. But if it does become a major problem (chemo and stuff required) i'd tell him about the problems (but dont say something like "son, im gonna die so bye bye")



I wish you good luck on your surgery and i will pray for you.Should you tell your child about a health scare?Don't sugar coat it.

here's the deal. If you let him know how bad it is then he won't be surprised if you do get chemo and He will have time to get used to the idea. If you don't have to get Chemo then awesome!! and he will be very grateful.



If you sugar coat it then he will be shocked and upset you didn't tell him in the first place. and he won't have the chance to get used to the idea. And maybe even do some research on different therapies or ways to help you out while you are getting whatever it is that you need.



You could actually take him to the doctor with you. Have the doc talk with him about what is going on.



It will actually be helpful to all of you to be able to talk about it openly. If you sugar coat it then you can't do that.Should you tell your child about a health scare?
Look. If he is asking U about the doctor's appointments, then he already knows something isn't right! And U not telling him (or sugar coating) IS NOT making him feel any better! He has all these ideas running thru his head about what could b wrong..w/no defined end! Sit him down %26amp; tell him the bare truth! Tell him what he can expect from this surgery (how long it will take, how long U will need to re-cooperate) and make sure to tell him what to expect after it. Tell him the possibility of chemo or radiation! Simply telling him these things will put his mind @ ease...cause now he knows what is wrong %26amp; what to expect! Answer ALL his ?s w/truth %26amp; honesty! Bet he takes it really well. And then it will b a HUGE weight off ur mind as well!
just tell him gently kids aren't stupid they know when something is wrong and he's probably worrying a lot right now just explain to him gently maybe not in great details or medical therm cause not knowing is probably stressing him more then if you told himShould you tell your child about a health scare?
You could die during surgery and you want to sugar coat it? Tell your son the truth.
sugar coat it. just tell him what you think is the best and keep the rest. Explain that to him when he's older. Good Luck on your surgery